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However, I would submit that it is much easier for most men to control both libido and behavior with one gender than with the other

Your submission is accepted. Your proof?

You are probably correct that it is normal for a man to be heterosexual. But I have heard a lot of evidence that even this is culturally passed down. It seems normal because homosexual cultures don't survive. (Gee, I wonder why not?) But there is much evidence that little boys don't really like little girls as much as other little boys and it takes quite a bit of time for them to change. Moreover, they change at different rates. Considering there is a tribe in New Zealand where it is considered normal for boys to be homosexual until they turn 18, then they become functional heterosexuals, I think the evidence for a natural "orientation" is pretty slim.

It is the role of the adults in society to nurture the children. Part of that is guiding them into healthy sexual models. Homosexual behavior is not among them.

Shalom.

"Your submission is accepted. Your proof?"

There's a lot of anecdotal and empirical support for this statement. I meet quite a few people in my profession, and I've known only two people who are significantly attracted to both sexes. The data show that the vast majority of post-pubertal individuals across cultures are heterosexual, that there is a minority that is homosexual (1-5%, depending on how you count them), and there are very few people who have significant bisexual attraction (generally less than 1%). I think that if you truly do not feel that you have a sexual orientation (e.g. you look at very attractive men and very attractive women in the same way), that would be very rare indeed.

"there is much evidence that little boys don't really like little girls as much as other little boys and it takes quite a bit of time for them to change"

Yes. However, when they change, their feelings toward girls are a lot different than their old feelings about boys.

Your perspective on sexual motivation sounds virtually Freudian. Freud's perspective was problematic in a whole lot of ways.

But there is much evidence that little boys don't really like little girls as much as other little boys and it takes quite a bit of time for them to change.

Exactly right. It’s much easier to be with the same sex as they are more like you. There is a natural conflict between the sexes and often homosexuality begins with the avoidance this conflict. Heterosexuality is a learned behavior; children raised in a culture that promotes the traditional family unit adapt and emulate the same behaviors as their parents. Evidence of the opposite is seen with higher rates (as high as 20%) of homosexuality practiced by children raised in homosexual households, statistically and disproportionately out of the general homosexual population.