[ArGee]

Agreed. However, they love men and women not only for different reasons, but also in qualitatively different ways.

True men love lots of men and women, for lots of unique reasons. But true men only have sex with their wives. They control their libidos.

No, there is nothing qualitatively different in the way I love my women friends and the way I love my men friends. There is a difference in the union I have with my wife, because of and as a part of my sexual relationship with only her.

And I am saying that boys are incapable of true love. It takes a man to get out of the selfish, "I love what you do for me" phase.

Shalom.

[Kahonek]

"true men...control their libidos..."

...or at least their sexual behavior, yes. However, I would submit that it is much easier for most men to control both libido and behavior with one gender than with the other. That's what I refer to as sexual orientation.

"boys are incapable of true love"

Here we disagree. I think you would have difficulty convincing many parents of this. Of course it's only a retrospective anecdote, but I think my love for others when I was a boy was based on much more than what they did for me.

Thanks for replying. I enjoy reading your posts on FR.