Do I need my husband's permission to cut my hair?

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[gnarledmaw]

Yes, all women should. The LBC's (Lesbian Bowl Cuts) that have been fashionable in the last few years are only to keep you coming back in to the salon regularly. Goodbye.

Next caller...

[Support Free Republic]

SHOW JIM THE MONEY!!!!

[Cultural Jihad]

Not at all. These sorts of talks are not unlike those you would hear among fundamentalist Christians.

[Hank Rearden]

Moos are morons, apparently.

[sfRummygirl]

If I haven't said this to God today, let me just take this moment to thank him for leading me to Christ.
Really, that's the first thing that popped into my head after I read this.
This 'fatwa' makes me so sad.

[doug from upland]

Question and Answer Details

Name of Questioner Saira Pakistan

Title Mobile phone romance is all in his head

Question: I have recently started a new job, where a Muslim guy works as a security guard and has gotten access to my mobile number. He sent me text messages a few times just making conversation then started to tell me I have nice eyes and I am the type of girl he has always been looking for.

I told him that I am a decent, respectable, Muslim girl who tries my best to keep on the straight path. He understood this and stopped paying me compliments like he used to but still sends me text messages as a friend everyday to see how I am doing.

I see him as a good friend and I am sure he does too. But I feel guilty for writing him back all the time and feel it is the wrong thing to do. Please help me, as it has started to get me down! I need some advice as to whether it is right to continue this friendship, but I do not know how to end it either.

Name of Counsellor: Abdullah Abdur Rahman
Topic Virtual relationship

Answer

Allah Most High is indeed guiding you and protecting you from the seductive nature of this security guard. We agree with you that the best course of action would be to stop communicating with this man. We appreciate your desire to be “nice” in this rather awkward situation. Frankly, the least of your worries is to be “nice” to a Muslim man or any man who tries to flirt with you. However, we realize that you will have to continue working at the same place, and therefore, it would be best to end the “friendship” in a considerate manner.

Experience tells us that it is better to be straightforward in saying what you have to say then to try and be indirect and end up complicating the issue further. If you feel comfortable talking to him in person, we suggest that you tell him politely that you wish to discontinue having any kind of relationship with him. Be quite clear about what you mean. Tell him you no longer wish to receive any text messages via your mobile number. Do not engage him in a conversation about why you feel the way you do because you will only prolong the awkwardness of the moment. At the same time, make sure you are discreet enough in choosing an appropriate yet direct tone of voice so as to avoid embarrassing him in front of other co-workers. If he chooses to raise his voice or create a scene, simply walk away.

Insha’allah we hope that you will give this issue some serious thought. You should not delay talking to this man and ending the relationship. If you see him after you have ended the relationship, it is entirely up to you how you wish to handle day to day pleasantries such as greeting him etc. Remember however, that he could for whatever reason assume that you will someday change your mind about him and might very well misinterpret any of your actions or words as a sign of hope. Be careful and insha’allah make du’a that Allah Most High guides you to end this situation in the best way possible. And Allah knows best.

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Cleric DFU answer:

Security guard? Don't take the chance. He just wants inside your pants.

[Flyer]

This form of alteration requires the agreement of the husband and wife

Be sure to keep her barefoot and pregnant, too.

[doug from upland]

I hope people participate. This has the potential to be a fun thread.

[jlogajan]

Taliban beauty stylist giving new hairdo.

[doug from upland]

Excellent.

[doug from upland]

(From the archives......sorry, the link to the MIDI is broken so you'll have to fake it)

CALIFORNIA GIRLS

Well, Saudi girls are hot…I watch them in the desert sands
They know just what to do when they hear hubby speak…they listen to all his commands

I get aroused when I see an Iranian walk by
The Ayatollah shouts and makes them shut their mouth…he really is my kind of guy

I wish they all could be Talibani girls
I wish they all could be Talibani
I wish they all could be Talibani girls

Kuwaiti girls excite me 'cause their daddies are so rich
And if the dowry's right, I could take anything…it is okay to hear them bitch

When I travel to Pakistan, I know just where to go
There is a girl there who is half Hindu and…she is the sweetest little ho

I wish they all could be Talibani girls
I wish they all could be Talibani
I wish they all could be Talibani girls

[doug from upland]

From the archives ---

MIDI - LONG COOL WOMAN IN A BLACK DRESS

(fairly long intro)

I’m in my cave getting lonely…fighting for the Taliban
There are needs that have been building…after all, I am a man

So I got up on my old camel…and I headed to a little camp
I would not leave until I got me some…I would find me a sweet Afghani tramp

She came out of her tent and right up to me she slithered
There was a big lump in my thro-oa-oa-oa-oat
She was a short squatty woman in a burqa…oh, my goodness, she smelled like my goat
I’m scared of what’s inside that burqa…and my words you certainly may quote

(musical break)

So into her tent I then followed…I was there so I’d take a chance
She gave me Michelob in a bottle…then she stood up and she started to dance
She saw that there was some arousal…she heard a great big “ooh” and an “aah”
She started taking off that burqa…and I saw that she was Donna Shalala

So I started to scream and went running…I could not see my camel at all
It was difficult to breathe…I said I’ve gotta leave
It had been a big mistake…and Allah, I am here for you to take

A short squatty woman in a burqa…yes, I swear, she smelled just like my goat
She’s a short squatty woman in a burqua…and, my goodness, she smelled like my goat

You can quote…like my goat
You can quote…like my goat
You can quote

You can quote…like my goat
You can quote

[SevenofNine]

Hey Doug that same wire service that AMC profile in that special about Hollywood movies and Muslum world run by two tradtional muslum women they are scary looking


SHUT UP CLERIC hey for the record in Middle East it is hot could imagine if woman want try something new
DOUG Rack that song that you just made up

RACK ITTT

[Howlin]

Oh geez.....warn a person! Yikes!

[lndrvr1972]

Or a dyke spike....

[doug from upland]

MORE GOOD ADVICE ---

Details of Fatwa

Title of Fatwa Women Having Their Hair Shortened
Date of Fatwa 22/ July/ 2002
Date of Reply 22/ July/ 2002

Topic Of Fatwa Hairstyle for women

Question of Fatwa Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. Is it permissible for a woman to have her hair shortened? Jazakum Allah khayran.

Name of Mufti Islam Online Fatwa Editing Desk
Content of Reply Wa`alykum As-Salaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Women often opt for short hair because of the way it frames the face. Short hairstyles are sometimes a form of beautification for most women.

Given this, according to Islam, there is nothing wrong in women having their hair shortened as long as it is done for the sake of beautifying themselves and nothing more. This is quite different from shaving head, which is completely forbidden for women.

If a woman has her hair cropped with the intention of looking masculine or non-Muslims, then it is forbidden, because the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said: "May Allah's Curse be inflicted upon women who imitate men and vice versa." (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

In this regard, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:

“A woman can shorten her hair provided she avoids a hairstyle peculiar to men. The Prophet, peace be on him, has cursed men who copy women and women who copy men. This applies to hairstyle and appearance. So long as she avoids this, she is permitted to cut her hair. There is no prohibition in the sources. We should remember that originally the rule is permission; prohibition is only an exception.

However, we must add a word of caution. A Muslim woman is required to cover her head and not expose it except to her husband or her Mahram (non-marriageable relative).” [Source: www.islam.ca]

Allah Almighty knows best.

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I don't think the NOW gang will be welcome in the Middle East.

[doug from upland]

Thanks, but the song is from the archives and a couple years old.

[Styria]

The Muslims missed the mark. The wife most certainly should consult with her husband first, but because her body is not merely her own anymore, but belongs to him too, and his to her.