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Posted on 07/15/2003 10:48:27 PM PDT by doug from upland
< Do I Need My Husband's Permission to Cut My Hair?
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25/ February/ 2003
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25/ February/ 2003
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Relationship Between Husband and Wife
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Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. If a woman wants to cut her hair, should she seek the permission of her husband? Jazakum Allah khayran.
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| Name of Mufti | European Council for Fatwa and Research
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Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger. Dear sister in Islam, we commend your pursuit of knowledge and your keenness to seek what is lawful and avoid what is not. We earnestly implore Allah to bless your efforts in this honorable way. It is to be stressed that the relations between the spouses should be based on tranquility, love and mercy. It is the duty of the husband and wife to see that they are a source of comfort and tranquility for each other. They should do everything physically, emotionally and spiritually to make each other happy and comfortable and avoid anything that violates this happiness and comfort. In response to the question you raised, the European Council for Fatwa and Research issued the following Fatwa: "There is hair trimming that a woman does from time to time and that a husband may not even notice due to the very slight alteration being made. Women usually do this so that their hair does not become so long as to be difficult to manage. This form of hair shortening does not usually require the permission of the husband. However, there are forms of hair shortening and alteration that completely change the appearance of the woman, which may surprise the husband if he wasn't consulted. This form of alteration requires the agreement of the husband and wife so that their relationship is not affected by this radical change in the woman's appearance. Due to the fact that a Muslim woman does not show her hair in public nor in front of non-mahram men, it is true that the husband has the foremost right to enjoy his wife's hair. A wise woman would be sure to pursue all means of maintaining love and affection between herself and her husband, ultimately leading to good Muslim households becoming the real basis of good Muslim societies." Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: http://www.ecfr.org You can also read: Women Having Their Hair Shortened Allah Almighty knows best. |
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Name of Questioner Saira Pakistan
Title Mobile phone romance is all in his head
Question: I have recently started a new job, where a Muslim guy works as a security guard and has gotten access to my mobile number. He sent me text messages a few times just making conversation then started to tell me I have nice eyes and I am the type of girl he has always been looking for.
I told him that I am a decent, respectable, Muslim girl who tries my best to keep on the straight path. He understood this and stopped paying me compliments like he used to but still sends me text messages as a friend everyday to see how I am doing.
I see him as a good friend and I am sure he does too. But I feel guilty for writing him back all the time and feel it is the wrong thing to do. Please help me, as it has started to get me down! I need some advice as to whether it is right to continue this friendship, but I do not know how to end it either.
Name of Counsellor: Abdullah Abdur Rahman
Topic Virtual relationship
Answer
Allah Most High is indeed guiding you and protecting you from the seductive nature of this security guard. We agree with you that the best course of action would be to stop communicating with this man. We appreciate your desire to be “nice” in this rather awkward situation. Frankly, the least of your worries is to be “nice” to a Muslim man or any man who tries to flirt with you. However, we realize that you will have to continue working at the same place, and therefore, it would be best to end the “friendship” in a considerate manner.
Experience tells us that it is better to be straightforward in saying what you have to say then to try and be indirect and end up complicating the issue further. If you feel comfortable talking to him in person, we suggest that you tell him politely that you wish to discontinue having any kind of relationship with him. Be quite clear about what you mean. Tell him you no longer wish to receive any text messages via your mobile number. Do not engage him in a conversation about why you feel the way you do because you will only prolong the awkwardness of the moment. At the same time, make sure you are discreet enough in choosing an appropriate yet direct tone of voice so as to avoid embarrassing him in front of other co-workers. If he chooses to raise his voice or create a scene, simply walk away.
Insha’allah we hope that you will give this issue some serious thought. You should not delay talking to this man and ending the relationship. If you see him after you have ended the relationship, it is entirely up to you how you wish to handle day to day pleasantries such as greeting him etc. Remember however, that he could for whatever reason assume that you will someday change your mind about him and might very well misinterpret any of your actions or words as a sign of hope. Be careful and insha’allah make du’a that Allah Most High guides you to end this situation in the best way possible. And Allah knows best.
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Details of Fatwa
Title of Fatwa Women Having Their Hair Shortened
Date of Fatwa 22/ July/ 2002
Date of Reply 22/ July/ 2002
Topic Of Fatwa Hairstyle for women
Question of Fatwa Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. Is it permissible for a woman to have her hair shortened? Jazakum Allah khayran.
Name of Mufti Islam Online Fatwa Editing Desk
Content of Reply Wa`alykum As-Salaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Women often opt for short hair because of the way it frames the face. Short hairstyles are sometimes a form of beautification for most women.
Given this, according to Islam, there is nothing wrong in women having their hair shortened as long as it is done for the sake of beautifying themselves and nothing more. This is quite different from shaving head, which is completely forbidden for women.
If a woman has her hair cropped with the intention of looking masculine or non-Muslims, then it is forbidden, because the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said: "May Allah's Curse be inflicted upon women who imitate men and vice versa." (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
In this regard, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:
“A woman can shorten her hair provided she avoids a hairstyle peculiar to men. The Prophet, peace be on him, has cursed men who copy women and women who copy men. This applies to hairstyle and appearance. So long as she avoids this, she is permitted to cut her hair. There is no prohibition in the sources. We should remember that originally the rule is permission; prohibition is only an exception.
However, we must add a word of caution. A Muslim woman is required to cover her head and not expose it except to her husband or her Mahram (non-marriageable relative).” [Source: www.islam.ca]
Allah Almighty knows best.
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