Even by your own admission gays are preoccupied with the age of consent given that nearly all states have uniform rules.
My own admission has stated repeatedly at every available opportunity that this is a preoccupation largely restricted to Europe, for very clear historical reasons. Nearly all American states have uniform rules because they never had reason to have disparate rules, because before they repealed their anti-sodomy statutes, same-sex relations were criminalized regardless of age. Whenever they repealed those statutes, the gender-neutral age-of-consent statutes simply applied uniformly as a matter of course.