You know the saying, join the military ... see the world ... Europe, Middle East, Asia, Carribean, Central and South America. Been to 49/50 states, Mexico and Canada. I found the same thing you did, people want to be treated with respect. In fact, those that receive it least often, appreciate it the most.
Personally, I'd fill the Congress, CEO positions, Executive and Judiciary with the likes of Colin Powell, Condoleeza Rice and J.C. Watts among others. I don't have the answers you're looking for - why the NBA is one color and the board room is another. Does racism play a role? You bet, both sides.
EJF
PS: You're welcome in my mansion and on my yacht, anyday "K"