He was doing fine until he got past this portion. The rest of it indeed sounded gay.
There's nothing wrong with a man being concerned with his appearance. I believe strongly in keeping my hair cut, in ensuring my clothing colors match with all accessories (socks match tie including suspenders if worn, shoe color matches belt color, watch face-color matches shirt underneath the suit, etc.), in shaving daily (even on the weekend), in keeping all my shoes shined with a gloss by hand, and in choosing a different cologne each day.
In short, I believe in being presentable each and every day.
My wife likes this a lot.
Obsession. My husband wears some cheap stuff that really smells good on him but my favorite has always been obsession.
You lost me on the shaving though. I prefer facial hair. I'll leave the reasons to imagination.
Yes, well, it depends why. To be ready for any job offer out there is important. Hygiene is important. Snagless clean and shiny matching dressing is important, to emphasis a competition in grace, and not just in roughness. However these aspects are not just about appearances, but can originate for some from deep seated discipline and debt payment to G_d.
As for being concerned with appearances, I dunno. Social "castration" and shunning does occur when one has not "proper" appearances. However that castrate the individual as source a media and serves only to pay debts to the surrounding impersonal nameless media.
Go around one day in the streets amongst bums and you will discover that:
1. you will have lot's in common with them in fact
2. you can sin just as much as they do, we all have left the Garden of Eden after all.
3. Their social castration brings blessings to them and prevent some of the rot we see occuring in well kept high class social environments, which tend to try to hide the rot behind appearances and thus moraly gangrening the insides.
4. We are all consumers and appearances can be deceiving.
The trick, especially with men, is in making it look effortless, and making it look as though those clothes came together by magic, not as if you had to think about it or spend a lot of time on it.
You know what ZZ Top says: "Every girl crazy 'bout a Sharp Dressed Man".