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It's a plea for attention, a different kind of suicide attempt, that's all. Acting out.

If someone under 19 declares that she or he is gay, I flat-out don't believe it. If it becomes fact over time, that may be as much from the pressure to live by a decision as from any biological reality. Between 14 and about 25 the brain is just programmed to respond to sexual stimulation and doesn't much filter where it comes from. Any sexual image or literature is going to have a huge effect. The relentless quest for friction isn't particularly well-guided at that age unless some external control is applied. That's why teen boys so often flirt with gay behavior, then settle down to be perfectly straight. Between those ages the source of stimulation/friction hasn't narrowed down to anything you could specifically call "orientation." That's something that takes some years.

It's a huge argument for trying to limit the sexual stimulaton this society imposes on youngsters. Brains of this age are over-sensitive to it. If they are thinking about it on the average one out of every ten waking minutes, all on their own, without outside help, that leaves nine minutes tops for other activities. If they aren't planning on a career in the sex industry, perhaps they should be spending that nine minutes on things that relate to the other 95% of what they need to know how to do to be an adult!

Yes, I believe that gay adults are neurologically different from straight adults. That's proven by autopsies and CAT scans. I just don't believe that the still-elastic brain of a teenager settles on the matter as early as many people seem to think.

I'm not saying that girls can't be more "masculine" in interests and behavior...but let's not mistake a tomboy for a lesbian. Perhaps she's making that mistake here about herself. If she liked trucks as a tot and likes wargaming as a teenager, that doesn't mean she has to eschew normal marriage and pregnancy later.