[A_perfect_lady]

That's true. I tend to think that an American man marrying a foreign woman is probably "saving" her from a dismal fate, and I applaud them. But you are right, you can't just pick up a person like a stray cat and take them home... 'specially if kittie comes from some freaky family who'll stalk you anywhere you go. I've heard a couple of scary stories about American men marrying Saudi girls whose brothers then devote their lives to hunting them down and killing them.

Geez... we Americans are just too dang nice!! I wish some Saudi jerk would marry one of our Lorena Bobbits, just once.

[Mamzelle]

re: That's true. I tend to think that an American man marrying a foreign woman is probably "saving" her from a dismal fate, and I applaud them. )))

Afraid I don't. I take a dim view of guys picking up strays, since their real motive is likely to keep the relationship "unilateral." I see some of these now and then. That way he thinks he'll get to call all the shots--or back to the pound with her!

I see this right now with a rich guy I know who "rescued" a woman and her daughter. Now he doesn't have to marry anyone, gets to play daddy as well as sugar daddy. He thinks he's *such* a hero...

People have all kinds of reasons when they're not dealing with equals from similar backgrounds, which I believe is the most reliable way of forming a lasting marriage.

[BagCamAddict]

I have yet to see a "mail order bride" situation in America that wasn't because the American male wanted a Maid, Mother, Nanny, Nurse, Whore, Slave, etc. and/or because American women weren't subservient enough (aka couldn't be made to be his slave).