My husband and I have a similar story (though not QUITE as disciplined as you and your wife were!), and we have been ecstatically married for almost 27 years now.
The confidence in knowing that you were the ONLY one for each other, and that you waited for your wedding night to show it, makes marriage oh, so much sweeter!
Not losing hope, I tried again 4 years later.
Courted her for a year, nice family, church-going girl, Godly. Things were like a fairy tale for two years. All at once--like in a month--She starts acting weird: bad friends, staying out late, compulsive spending. She's diagnosed with Manic-Depressive Disorder, won't take her pills, stops going to church, ruins my credit, my friends don't like to come around because they told me they can't stand to see how she treats me.
With the help of Prayers and God, I stuck this out 4 more years.
We get in an argument about her spending and staying out for nights. She calls the cops and claims I'm beating her (I wasn't). Cops interview both of us and see she is whacko and advise me to 'stay lost for a while'. As she has spent my paycheck, I take a bedroll and sleep on the mesa for a few nights.
She is now shacked up with some other guy and trying to take half of my stuff.
With the first wife, maybe she swindled me in and I was naive. With the second one, no one could have predicted it.
All I know is: I will never give another person the power to use the courts and cops to destroy me just because they feel like it.
I will never do it again. Nor do I plan on being celibate. I'm looking forward to dating and fornicating like a rutting animal.
Marriage is crap. 'Courting' is crap. The laws are designed to ruin men's lives.