[hocndoc]

I've only miscarried once, at 18 years old in 1974, when I was less than 3 months along. At the time, I didn't think anything about the fact that I never got to see my baby, because the doctor was "in charge." It was years later that I finally mourned the loss of my baby and the way he or she was treated like a "no thing."

The social customs about burial and funerals vary as much as protection from fraud, theft, slavery and murder in the world. Social and cultural norms don't define the human species or members of the species or the right not to be intentionally killed, they only reflect local prejudice and personal beliefs.

BTW, I have made it known that I don't want a funeral or a gravesite when I die (If I haven't made my mark on people's life before I die, it's too late afterwards, so donate my body to the medical school and organ banks and cremate whatever's left over), so your question is irrelevant to my personal beliefs.

[XBob]

very interesting thoughts, and I feel sorry that you feel a loss for your miscarriage. However, that is a mis-carriage (exactly what it says), and not a 'failure to implant' and develop, which I am sure you have had far more.

Did you have a funeral for your mis-carriage, once you came to your new beliefs? Or funerals for your fertilized eggs?

[XBob]

Or, perhaps not a funeral, but at least grieving? As, according to many here, they are worth the same as your whole life and all your accomplishments.