The metrosexual revolution

Sydney Morning Herald ^ | June 16, 2003 | PA

[FLAMING DEATH]

I can offer you several "correct" definitions, but the best way I can sum it up succinctly is "archetypal frat boy".

[TigerLikesRooster]

RE #12

Well, I know that there are women who do not automatically fall for alpha males. They could be attractive, but are not knock-out bombshell types. They tend to keep low profile.

[Cathryn Crawford]

You know, those guys that think they're really hot; they love to brag about how many conquests they've made; they typically drink too much; they're highly competitive...etc, etc, etc...

[Dan from Michigan]

they're highly competitive

Winning isn't everything. It's the only thing.......

[FLAMING DEATH]

Unfortunately, ass kicking is not something I routinely participate in.

Don't get me wrong, I ain't afraid of a fight. I'm 6'4" and 250...quite an imposing figure.

But, I gotta have a good reason before I'll participate in any fight, and in my opinion, a woman, unless she's mine, or unless she's in some kinda danger, ain't a good reason.

I know people who are ready to fight after getting called a name or inadvertently bumped into while in public. I can't stand to be around them.

[Cathryn Crawford]

It's the only thing.......

That's been my motto for many years. Sadly, I've been disappointed a few times by it.

So long as you don't go overboard. I know a few guys who have.

[FLAMING DEATH]

I don't want a knockout. I tend to prefer "cute" over "hot", because every "hot" woman I have ever met has been a raving b****.

I only want someone who will take the time to figure out that I'm a great person for who I am, and not for the strutting that I do to initially attract her to me.

I wonder how far we are "evolved" from animals sometimes.

[FLAMING DEATH]

I've never been competitive, because I've never felt that I had anything to prove.

Thus, I tend not to compete for women, either, and apparently, rather than the woman making the choice between two guys (like a smart, 21st century person is supposed to do) they'd rather see a competition that would stroke their ego. The one who fights hardest wins, although, unbeknownst to her, the one who fights hardest will also probably be the one who uses her and goes out to find another conquest the next night.

[technochick99]

I thought that eventually, the girl would wake up and come to her senses, and there I'd be, the obvious choice, the loyal friend who could easily become the caring boyfriend...

I think a lot of this has to do with immaturity on the woman's part. Of course, perhaps you haven't always given off the right signals to women?

[TigerLikesRooster]

Re #27

Actually, in some sense, we are devolving. With major social institutions in ruins, thanks to the left's misguided quest for uptopia, our animal past begins to reassert itself.

[Cathryn Crawford]

Well, women want to see protectiveness - at least, I do, and I'm a woman. I guess that qualifies me. :)

Fighting over the least little thing, though - now there's another story.

[FLAMING DEATH]

Well, most of the time, when I am interested in a woman, I'm pretty up front about it. I tend to speak my mind.

I've even told these "friends" who were in abusive relationships that I have never and would never treat a woman that way...phrases like, "If I were your boyfriend, I'd..." etc.

To me, that's pretty obvious.

A friend of mine used to use the line, "So, when are you going to break up with him and go out with me?" Didn't work either. He always got the, "I think that would ruin our great friendship!" line.

That one kills me.

[FLAMING DEATH]

My trusty arsenal and superb marksmanship skills, my adequate salary (not excessive, but adequate) and my general ability to handle situations and willingness to help are ample evidence of my ability to "protect".

I have been told that I was a great catch, and would make a perfect husband someday for someone...but not her.

I have also been told that I was too "agreeable", because I sought input from a girl on a date instead of just making a decision myself.

It is my opinion that most women just want to be told what to do.

[FLAMING DEATH]

Well, I think the former standards and expectations that were held for men and women in society were no accident. I have no problem with women having their place in a modern society...I have had female bosses and gotten along great with them, but sometimes I think there has to be a way for men to be men and women to be women...

I guess, in a way, because I was raised to respect and revere women instead of just trying to dominate and conquer, I've been ruined.

[Cathryn Crawford]

You sound like a great guy. Protection is only one thing among many that women look for. Stability and loyalty also cross my mind...

[Dan from Michigan]

I never intented to say that you were afraid of a fight(the jerks are usually). Usually the quieter ones aren't, and don't waste their time.

I often use the motto "fight smart", and do my best to stick to it, by picking my battles. The time I get too cocky is the day I mess up and lose. I prefer using my wits to my fists or feet. That said, if need be, I'll drop the gloves.

[FLAMING DEATH]

Yep. I'm as loyal as a puppy.

I've never cheated on anyone I've been with, but I haven't enjoyed the same from my dates...

[Cathryn Crawford]

Wow. I'm sorry. That must hurt.

Sounds like you've dated some real losers.

[FLAMING DEATH]

That's it for me exactly. I knew what you meant...all I was saying that a situation in which I would fight rarely presents itself.

Also, I'm packing most of the time. That means that the fight could have the following consequences:

1) I go to jail...

2) I end up not only WITHOUT a girlfriend, but some big burly guy ends up having ME as HIS girlfriend.

All over a floozie who I probably wouldn't want anyway.

[FLAMING DEATH]

I have a talent.

I can attract losers.

And, the best kind of losers...the kind who seem like they've got their life together and a degree of intelligence.