[Capriole]

I won't criticize him for his decision to remain celibate, and there are good reasons for it. However, I do feel a little sympathy for the woman. She dates a man for six months and he doesn't want to give her hope for marriage, and won't get nekkid either. I don't know how long she should wait for either choice. I don't know either, if six months is long enough to wait for a marriage proposal. Given their ages and experience in life, it seems time enough though, and I don't blame her for bailing. I'm not sure after reading the article if he doesn't want sex or is just turned off for life for marriage.

It sounds as though he was dating this woman, trying to find out if she was the right one for him, and just wasn't feeling the passionate love he wants to feel. She fairly asked him where he was, emotionally, and he told her that he just wasn't feeling as though their relationship would lead to marriage. She determined that she didn't want to waste any more time with him. This is fair to everyone. Nobody did anything wrong here. Nobody owes anybody an apology. It's just a good thing for her that she didn't waste any more time on a relationship that was not going to lead to adoration, dedication, and marriage.

I respect this man. He is acting on principles. Remember that the first line in this article says that he had a dramatic lifestyle change, so presumably his previous lifestyle was full of uncommitted sex. He makes it clear, without revealing intimate details, that he was horrified at the consequences of his previous lifestyle--sorrow and suffering, pregnancy, disease, and possible death.

For all of you who think it's weird: it's more common than you know. A lot of guys are celibate but just don't go around talking about it all the time. A lot of other guys aren't quite celibate but only have sex when they're deeply in love, which doens't happen all that many times in a person's life.

As for the idea of having sex with a steady girlfriend: no man should have sex with a steady girlfriend unless he's planning to marry her, because steady girlfriends get pregnant, too. There's no such thing as foolproof birth control. If you don't love her enought to marry her you don't love her enough to have sex with her.

[Age of Reason]

A lot of guys are celibate but just don't go around talking about it all the time.

Given the current crop of modern women, I confess celibacy looks good me.

[Age of Reason]

no man should have sex with a steady girlfriend unless he's planning to marry her

The opposite is wiser: He should try, of course--and should the maiden reject him, then he will know she is worth marrying.

[Enterprise]

I'm honestly not trying to frame this as "right or wrong." If it seems that way I apologize, it is the way I write, and not the way I believe. It is absolutely to the benefit of both of them that if he didn't feel the passion for marriage that he be honest about it. Honesty can cause heartbreak, but it is better than a heartbreaking marriage.

I have worked with a lot of people. I never cared who was celibate or not, and didn't particulary feel the need to ask them. I just feel that if it was something important to know, it would only matter to that other person and the one they were in relationship with.

[laredo44]

A lot of guys are celibate

Not on purpose.

[laredo44]

As for the idea of having sex with a steady girlfriend: no man should have sex with a steady girlfriend unless he's planning to marry her, because steady girlfriends get pregnant, too.

There are numerous methods of having sex, only one of which carries the risk of pregnancy.

[~EagleNebula~]

If you don't love her enought to marry her you don't love her enough to have sex with her.

Touche'