Posted on 06/15/2003 10:39:14 AM PDT by Mister Magoo
is a celibate man any less "controlled by his groin" is choosing a mate than a promiscuous one?
as i alluded to in another post, i'm not sure this is the case. it would seem to take a deep love to propel someone into a life long committment when they are already 'getting the milk for free'. the problem i see is that too many people will just choose to stay single for their whole life.
i don't think marriage was invented to make people sexually moral. it was created to make them responsible for their sexual actions.
is a celibate man any less "controlled by his groin" is choosing a mate than a promiscuous one?
as i alluded to in another post, i'm not sure this is the case. it would seem to take a deep love to propel someone into a life long committment when they are already 'getting the milk for free'. the problem i see is that too many people will just choose to stay single for their whole life.
i don't think marriage was invented to make people sexually moral. it was created to make them responsible for their sexual actions.
Well, the Mosaic Law in the Old Testament says a few things [in no particular order]:
The New Testament has a somewhat narrower sexual moral compass than the Old, but it doesn't have absolute prohibitions in the same way that the Old one did. Certainly it is clear in both the Old and New Testament that the preferred sexual union is between a husband and wife; there are proverbs that make clear all others are foolish. As such, it's quite clear that non-marital sexual relations were discouraged, even though not prohibited.
9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
this is a good example of what i was saying in 462 (and 464 - sorry for the double post).
i.e. society's main and best interest in this arena is in seeing that people take responsibility for their sexual actions.
Personally, I am a 17 year old female, virgin. Staying a virgin is one of the hardest things to do these days, but I am convinced that my relatioinship with my future husband will be even deeper if we have only had sex with each other.
Now I am not naive, or a "good girl"--I could have sex if I wanted. However, I don't becasue I think that the consequences far outweigh the rewards.
I have lots of guy friends who have made the same commitment to purity. And believe me they are not gay, sissy, obese, or missing linbs--they're ALL male,(and some of them are really good-looking) but they are still waiting for their wedding night.
I know how hard it is for guys to stay virgins (I have 3 brothers) and that is why I respect guys that have the self-control to wait for something that is so much better. THOSE guys will make the best husbands.
~L
Not being familiar with first-century linguistic usage, it's not entirely clear what is meant.
Certainly, one main message of the Gospels is that repentant sinners who seek Christ can receive salvation. Indeed, since all are sinners, the only way to salvation is through Christ.
I therefore do not take Paul's words in Corinthians to mean that nobody who has ever fornicated can enter the Kingdom of God, nor anybody who has ever gotten drunk, etc.
One difficulty with terms like "drunkard" or "fornicator" is that they refer to quantitative concepts qualitatively, without clarification. As such, it can be unclear whether the terms are meant narrowly or widely.
To understand what I mean, consider other verb-derived nouns like "writer". Would you call anyone who has ever written anything, anywhere, a writer? Or would you only use the term to refer to a small subset of such people?
Without being familiar with first-century linguistic usage, I can't really say with certainty what Paul meant. Certainly the term would probably include people who engage in wild orgies nightly with half a dozen partners. But would it include someone who had sexual relations with a woman he ended up marrying?
For my own actions, I try to stay within the straight and narrow (adopting fairly broad definitions of those terms). On the other hand, I cannot say with certitude that broad definitions are correct.
I'd say the purpose is much more specific: to protect the right of all people--other than those who by their own actions forfeit the right--to know who their offspring are.
Of course, women don't need to have that right protected--biologically a woman who's pregnant can pretty well guess the child is hers.
Men, however, have no such inherent biological assurance. By requiring that their wives be virgins when they wed, and that they have sex with no one else, husbands can get the assurance from society that biology alone would not provide.
Note, btw, that the focus of marriage on protecting the right to know one's offspring is why female virginity is prized and adultery (for a married woman to sleep with a man not her husband) is not tolerated; it's also why polygyny is acceptable but polyandry is not, and why fornication--even by married males--is not forbidden but is discouraged (a man who sleeps around may find children emerging who grow up to claim a share of his inheritance; the unwise action thus produces its own punishment).
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I'll bet your whole family is proud.
Your holier-than-thou attitude must endear you to nearly everyone.
It's also almost impossible to rebuild that trust. Sometimes you can be very careful and not know what you're getting into. Sometimes people are darn clever about misrepresenting themselves. These days you never know...
I like Condi Rice, and I appreciate the fact that she has other interests besides politics. Can you imagine a debate between her and Hill?
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