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Boys clothes from Wal-Mart seems like it goes a little too far in the opposite direction -- likely, if anything, to provoke a bad rebellion. (A girl's wardrobe is only secure until she gets the first place she can pull out the blouse she stuffed downt he bottom of her back-pack).

J. Crew and Banana Republic (to name a couple of brands) offer classically tailored, very appealling clothing for women ... think preppy, feminine, chic yet traditional. Nothing tackily reveealing, but nothing absurdly clunky or baggy. (Baggy sends a message to the boys, "my mom doesn't want you to touch me." Classic and fitted sends a message to the boys, "I'm a star, and no one unworthy of me can dare to touch." Guess which one is more effectively intimidating to a teenage boy?)

I only use the basic t shirts from Wal mart or Target. There is nothing baggy about them. They have no writing or pitures on them. If a child is changing clothes because of rebellion, then the issue at hand is the relationship between the parents and the child, not the clothes.

Many teenaged boys think that they are more than worthy to touch what they want. Although we used classic clothing to solidify a worldview and to enhance modesty, the child in the clothes and her relationship and beliefs about herself and her family values trump every time.

I mom and step mom of four teen girls. It has occasionally been a struggle to keep them in appropriate clothes but I NEVER gave in. I talked modesty and what slut wear does to teenage boys and self-respect and self-expression till their eyes glazed over but its worked. Even my youngest, who at 8 begged me for purple hair, at 14 keeps that tummy covered. We consider ourselves Womanists, not Feminists. I tell them I am their MOTHER, not their FRIEND, and if I dont teach them the right way to be than who will?

I heard my eldest, 16, tell a boy she knows "everybody has tits; it doesnt take anything special to let your tits hang out. I'd rather be known for my personality and brain than my boobs"

They are all knockouts. Mine are like me, super tall size fours with model figures. My steps are petite and with perfect shapes. I have convinced them that they will get plenty of the *right* kind of attention from boys by being *normal*. Its worked very well and I am very proud of all of them.

Gap has the best t-shirts and has flare jeans that arent super low cut. JCrew, Lands End are also great.