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"There is much evidence (more than anecdotal and the references supplied in the links I've provided) that sexual abuse can and has led up to a homosexual orientation."

Yes. But are they true homosexuals? I define a homosexual as someone who has exclusive romantic/sexual attraction to members of the same sex. I've often heard women who were having trouble with their boyfriends say "I'm tired of men, maybe I'll try women". I don't consider them lesbians.

More like sexual refugees.

Yes. But are they true homosexuals? I define a homosexual as someone who has exclusive romantic/sexual attraction to members of the same sex.......

Well my brother had a serious relationship with a woman but died at the hands of his permiscous behavior with men...he was indeed a homosexual.

**But are they true homosexuals?**

This is much of the problem that I see in trying to talk about sexual abuse. I'm specifically talking about the sexual abuse of pre-pubescent/pubescent children. Lots of people are complaining that these threads can get way off topic. So I'm sticking to the topic.

Here we go. This is pertaining to both Heterosexual & Homosexual. It's not hypothetical. I'm talking about real people that I know.

Can you see the tragedy of an adult "acting out" the sexual abuse they expierenced whether subliminally or consciously?

Can you understand the agony that family & friends feel when they "know why"?

Can you understand the anger that family & friends express when others say they are being "intolerant" of that person's "lifestyle"? (remember I'm talking about all sexual orientations)

Can you understand the frustration that family & friends feel with "outsiders" who come in to the situation then insist that they love that person more because they "accept" them for who they are?

Can you understand the pain that family & friends go through when that (sexually abused) adult turns to them, knowing they can because of unconditional love, to listen to all their problems only to be undermined by "outsiders" who have their own agenda?

Remember when replying, this is about children that were sexually abused then grew into adulthood taking these problems with them.
This is not about you, homosexuality, sexual liberation or anything but those who are dealing with the repercussions of what everyone here seems to agree is a tragedy.