[ChemistCat]

It bothers me that we are coming to expect men just naturally beat up on small children that are not their own. We are not lions. Human males do not need to kill the cubs not of their seed. And I don't know any male who would hurt *any* child, related to him or not. This remains sick aberation, not normal male behavior. I know good stepfathers who shelter the children they have taken in, even go to great lengths and great personal inconvenience to do the best thing for their stepchildren.

PLEASE do not normalize this. It is not normal. Women DO need to protect their children better than they often do, but it is not yet to the point where it is always irresponsible to leave children in an unrelated man's care! Many, many men become daddies to children they didn't sire, and do good, not harm.

[LubyGee]

Thanks, Chemist!

My son's biological father openly admits he couldn't handle being a full time father. He still loves his son, but knows he can't raise him properly and would NEVER hurt him. I thank God for my son's "step-daddy" (direct quote from said son).

My husband fell in love with my 2 year old (age at the time) before he fell in love with me. (I think!) I'm very proud of my husband for not voicing his opinion of the biological father in my son's presence.

Having parents that divorced in my infancy, I can honestly tell you that I would NOT have a relationship with my own mother (my choice) if she hadn't married such a great man.

Now I'm off to the UPS store to mail Dad (Grandpa), and Stepdad's (Grandpa Jay) gifts!

[netmilsmom]

>>Women DO need to protect their children better than they often do, but it is not yet to the point where it is always irresponsible to leave children in an unrelated man's care! Many, many men become daddies to children they didn't sire, and do good, not harm. <<

But why take that chance. I have one chance with my children. One chance for hurt, one chance for killed. I could not live with myself if something happened to them because I took that chance. You may be a lovely man, but I am a mother cat when it comes to my kids.