[Tax-chick]

How would you like to be told that because you are a man (evil!) you aren't as important to your kids

That's a red herring. We've all agreed that men and women are different; we're not Democrats here. What, then, is so incomprehensible about the idea that mothers and fathers are both essential to their children, but in different ways, and with emphasis on different needs and seasons in their children's lives.

It seems to me that you're trying to create a dichotomy, mother vs. father, where there is none in nature. And based, for heaven's sake, on the question of which parent should give up a few months of their FReepin' "self-actualization" to pay attention to the kiddies! It seems awfully Hillary to me, at the roots ...

[Cathryn Crawford]

That's not what I meant.

I just am of the (unpopular) opinion that fathers are just as vital to a child's well being as mothers.

[Cathryn Crawford]

"...FReepin' "self-actualization" to pay attention to the kiddies!"

I actually find this rather offensive to the moms and dads who genuinely want to stay home with their kids and cannot due to economic circumstances. You are completely cutting them out, and painting all parents who work as selfish.