[Go Gordon]

If you don't want to support them, don't make them!

Hey Einstein, it had nothing to do with not wanting to support the child. It had to do with the fundamental fairness and equity. The current system is inherently flawed. Fathers are forced to do things monetarily after divorce, that they aren't required to do while still married. You call that fair? Well, maybe if you live in North Korea or China, but not in the USA.

For example, a married father still living in the house has a choice whether or not to help contribute to, or pay in full, college tuition. However, once booted out of the house, the courts MANDATE the father pay a huge amount for tuition.

[ChemistCat]

Then pick your bride carefully, and stay married to her.

Time after time in this society, people hold big heavy buckets of liquid manure over their heads and pour it out on top of themselves, and then whine that gravity did it to them.

[sweetliberty]

As with everything the government sees fit to involve itself in, this issue too has become very unbalanced. Of course it should be administered fairly and often isn't. I know of one such situation right now where a dad is being completely crippled by the unreasonable demands of his ex-wife. It cuts both ways. The bottom line is that there are selfish men who blow off their kids as if they are none of their concern and there are selfish women who use their kids to get what they want. Neither is balanced or fair, but as I said in my previous post, I'm afraid that until this country sets decency and morality as a high priority again and people are motivated to do something because it is the right thing to do that we are stuck with inadequate and overbearing government interference at all levels.

[BOOTSTICK]

Outside of the institution of marrage, men who are legally banned from the decision of wheather a woman gives birth to HIS unborn offspring, should not have to pay for HER decision. Many women get pregant have a baby, and WALK AWAY FROM THEIR PARENTAL RESPONSABILITY by dumping the child at a hospital, or by giving the baby up for adoption. Therefore , outside of the marrage contract, men who don't get a say, shoud'nt have to pay.

[LaineyDee]

Fathers are forced to do things monetarily after divorce, that they aren't required to do while still married.

How so? Are they not required to pay medical bills, food, rent, clothing, gifts, school supplies, child care.....etc, while they're married? IMHO, it would be alot easier for women let the men have the kids and pay monthly child support. Then fathers could fund all their kids extra activities, find ways to get them there and back....do the extra laundry/housekeeping .....pay babysitter's when he goes on dates....stay home and get his pay docked when the kids are sick.... and deal with disappointed hearts when Mom doesn't show up for visitations or send birthday gifts.

Money doesn't make up for the day to day inconveniences, turmoil and trouble that the primary guardian has to deal with.