WOW! Hildy I never concidered you to be callous. That statement is very cold and without feeling. I have a hard time believing you are being truthful in that you have never concidered what your child would have looked like.
If that is a true statement, it is truely shocking.
I'm not going to lie and pretend and say I feel bad about this to make you feel better. If this makes me a horrible, callous, evil person, then so be it.