So...WHOEVER does it is behaving in a racial way, imho. Of course, there must a going out of one's way to exclude based on race rather than just a family get-together for a backyard picnic.
If the family is all white and they get together with themselves, THAT is not segregation. That's congregation. If the church is all white simply through free choice and they get together with themselves, that is not segregation. That's congregation.
If the family (or church) has black members and the white members exclude them because of "unacceptance", then that is segregation, and in the long run it will injure some family/church member.
Fairly easy to see with families/churches.
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People segregate and "go out of one's way" based on social strata, language, cultuiral commonality, looks, sexual preference, etc -- ad infinitum -- don't they?
I don't see where, why or how "racially segregated" get-togethers are in any way different -- it precludes "mind-reading" the offenders in any case who themselves become suseptible to state-enforced 'laws of inclusion'...
Another problem is in PC society's turning a blind eye selectively when the tables are turned -- this inconsistancy is disturbingly elitist and hypocritical.