[honeygrl]

"I honestly don't get the baby/exhaustion thing, and we have two children, and are working on 2-3 more (not all at one shot, please.) "

It's most likely a hormonal thing for me and a lot of women. I also have miserable pregnancies too and not much sex drive during those either (of course who wants sex when they feel like crap?)That's why we've stopped at 2 kids. I just don't think my body would forgive me if I made it go through all that again. People always think I'm insane when I tell them that I actually enjoyed the 30 hour labor with my daughter. But it meant the pregnancy part was over so I was so happy to do the whole 30 hours. Through the day my mom insisted that my labor didn't hurt as bad as hers did with me because I would smile and laugh brtween contractions. It wasn't because it didn't hurt like hell though (of course after 12 hours or so I got an epidural so the rest didn't hurt as much) it was because I was just so HAPPY it was about to be done with and someone else could hold that baby! lol Took me about a week to let go of her though and let anyone else hold her.

[Missus]

I also have miserable pregnancies too and not much sex drive

That's probably it, then... I've got a great lot of "peasant" genes, and besides the constant vomiting, I have great pregancies, and labors so far have been 8 and 5 hours (back labor, though... not fun), which even wimps like me can hack without an epidural--it's only the length of a decent miniseries, after all! LOL

I've a friend who talks of low hormone levels, and my constant response is: Go Talk To Your Doctor. I can't see ignoring an entire aspect (and FUN aspect) of life, just because my body doesn't kick out enough chemicals.

I love my kids--and my husband is the one who provides them, so I do everything I can to express my love and appreciation for him, to him in ways that he "gets." For him, that's cooking meals he likes, lots of physical affection, and sex, plus "the words". He responds by signally his love and affection in way that I "get": building stuff, thank yous for the meals, lots of physcial affection, and sex, plus "the words." Even during The Long Dark Days post child-birth, we find ways to express affection physically... he was REALLY relieved to find out I didn't plan to ignore him for a month and half after our daughter was born, as he'd had guy friends telling him their horror stories, just the way we girls share rotten labor stories! LOL

Speaking of the offspring... they're clamoring to be fed.

Regards