Looks like you missed the whole point of my post. My point was that women should cheerfully have sex with their husbands without making household chores (or anything else) an excuse. Sex is such an important part of most marriages that it should be a priority, right up there with paying the bills and way ahead of keeping the house clean.
And in this discussion I was not referring to what you characterize as "self-assigned house chores" but to the endless toil of taking care of a sick newborn and other children. These are not self-assigned and they have nothing to do with martyrdom but are necessary to the life and health of young children. I do hope you understand that there are times when a mother has a newborn and truly is exhausted, perhaps in pain because of surgery, wearied by the demands of nursing every few hours round the clock, and on those occasions she may well expect some extra help from her husband; if he refuses to help with their children, but contents himself with working eight hours while she works twenty, her anger may be appropriate. IN GENERAL, however, I am advocating a woman happily making love with her husband 365 nights a year; I advocate her respecting him, treating him with admiration, loyalty, and support, giving him whatever type of sex he wants that's not abusive, staying interested in him, staying slender and attractive for him, staying sweet, loving his male traits, and not griping about the fact that he's not a house-slave.
I like men just fine the way they are and don't think women should try to change a thing about 'em. Now, try to argue with that!