[SauronOfMordor]

Why would a person WANT to have sex with someone who is only doing it out of obligation? What is the point of that, what does the one calling in the marriage chips get out of it? Does it help the relationship? Does it make the marriage then valid? What is the long range view of such a relationship?

See my post 979

When you have gotten to the point where sex is only happening "out of obligation", it's time to either fix what's wrong sexually, allow the unsatisfied partner to have an alternate outlet for his sexual needs, or call it quits.

[Lorianne]

Exactly the way I feel. But not to let the situation continue along just getting obligation sex but nothing more. I'm trying to understand why one would want that (as some here have said ie it's better than no sex).