They exist, their sexuality is questioned not by them, but by us. We want to simply make believe that they do not exist, in spite of the fact that homosexuality is as old as man, we think that some kind of "see no evil" attitude will make some kind of a difference.
Their sins are punishable by G*d, not by man playing the role of G*d, or the government assuming G*d's role.
My beliefs tell me that, unlike the vast majority of the people on this thread, I am to hate the sin, but love the sinner.
I don't call them "queers" (unless I am making a point), I call them sinners like many of us are sinners, I don't call them deviants, I call the behavior deviant while recognizing that in my own imperfection as a human, I engage in what may be deviant behavior, if one is to consider all sodomy deviant behavior, and I most certainly completely reject the idea that "God hates fags"...they are sinners, and He sacrificed His only begotten Son to provide sinners with a vehicle to salvation.
He wouldn't have done that unless He loved us all equally.
So have murderers but we don't coddle them, create murderer rights movements, or otherwise enable their destructive behavior.
Look, Free Republic is not a place to discuss how to counsel people you know. It's a place to discuss public policy. The gays and lesbians I know are aware that I believe their lifestyle is problematic, but we get along fine as long as we agree not to bring the subject up. But the bigger issue is that everywhere else they turn they are being told they are not deviant, not queer, not in need of help. For the sake of compassion that must change.
Once they understand they are sinners, then the utmost compassion should be used to help them deal with their sin.
Your approach will make homoerotic behavior no more stigmatized than divorce or fornication - and look where that has gotten us.
Shalom.