As to my "conditions"...I just point out that there are a lot of people who have never served a day of military service who have lots of opinions about how that service should be run. As taxpaying citizens (presuming they pay taxes and are citizens, a big assumption nowadays) they have the right to state those opinions in the realm of public discourse and have them considered. (Yes, technically nontaxpaying noncitizens can yammer also but since they aren't paying the freight who cares.) But I think on a subject like this -- a service that depends on volunteers to staff and run it -- and considering the subject of women in the service in roles exposed to combat is partially an issue because not enough men volunteer -- yeah, I do think that the voices of those who serve should be given priority.
Simply put, the attempt to weight opinions based on your self-serving criteria is a dodge. You certainly wouldn't have been saying that if you hadn't been in the military. It is an attempt to delegitimize other arguments without rebutting them.
But that's fine. I don't expect to see your opinion appear on any primary or secondary education threads, since you don't know what you are talking about, having never taught at those levels...