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To: amarok
Having fought ADHD all my life .. (thru 5 college degrees) ... I will assure you ... it is real. It took YEARS of practice and still takes strong willed CONSTANT disipline to combat it even while performing my engineering duties. When ADHD is coupled with a Mensan level IQ it produces a double whammy that is very hard to control ...

Every point below is what really happens to someone who is ADHD .... The first problem is that the person with it does not realize that most everyone else does not have it. They think it is perfectly normal to feel the way they do and don't realize that they are acting/behaving differently than others.

Quite frankly it is CRUEL and DISPICABLE to expect a child to be able to control something that they feel is normal and especially to punish them for something that takes years to learn to control much less live with.

SHAME on those of you out there who feel that a good spanking is all that is needed to cure a child with ADHD. I'll bet you'd spank a one legged child for not running as fast as the others too.

This is from someone who's had to live with it all his life ... and my father NEVER spared the rod.

Points that are true ...

Whether or not it is a true disorder is uncertain; however, it is real.

ADD is probably over-diagnosed and can be used as an excuse for unacceptable behavior, but that doesn't discount its existence.

Many children with ADD are not behaviorial problems at all; they often tend to be daydreamers because they easily lose focus or easily become distracted.

While a person with ADD can easily lose focus, they also tend to hyper-focus on things they find highly stimulating. And they look for highly stimulating activities on which they can focus.

ADD is more often diagnosed in boys; however, my sons were never diagnosed with ADD, but both my daughters were. All attended a Christian school (and have since graduated). The youngest has ADHD.

Medication is just one way of handling ADD. Parents and teachers often know how to structure tasks that aid an ADD child (as well as non-ADD children)

Last ... but very important point ... poeple who don't believe ADHD is real ... don't know what the HELL the're talking about

133 posted on 04/29/2003 11:15:43 AM PDT by clamper1797 (Per caritate viduaribus orphanibusque sed prime viduaribus)
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To: clamper1797
ADD is more often diagnosed in boys

And so is autism, further supporting my amateur theory that real ADD is related to the autistic spectrum disorders (the reality of which no sane person is challenging).

137 posted on 04/29/2003 11:18:51 AM PDT by GovernmentShrinker
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To: clamper1797
> It took YEARS of practice and still takes
strong willed CONSTANT disipline...


Welcome to the real world. Life is a struggle. Get used to it.


ADD/ADHD is a horrible fraud.
165 posted on 04/29/2003 11:47:11 AM PDT by TheWillardHotel
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To: clamper1797
My son is a near-genius too. He has managed to compensate for his problems because of this, and is managing decent grades, but he needs more than the adjustments we have managed to make.

I had to live with the "He just needs to be spanked more" comment from my Father for several years. My parents FINALLY admitted that my son had a real PROBLEM, and he could not control it. It is NOT because of lazy parents, divorced parents, lax discipline or all the other horrible comments I am reading on these threads. I am a SAHM, and we have a very stable marriage.

I could have spanked my son all day and it wouldn't have affected his behavior, just our relationship.

My son is miserable, and our home life is miserable. We have struggled with this for 8 years, and have been trying different strategies for 5 of those years. We have reached the difficult decision to try medication, which I have fought. I must say the ignorant comments from people who have NO experience with a child like this are seriously upsetting me.
256 posted on 05/02/2003 10:01:13 AM PDT by Politicalmom
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