The lesbians I know (long story) are somewhat monogamous, but most of them have all "hooked-up" with everyone else in their little community at one time or another. Show me a heterosexual community like that. It is very weird. Many of them will have several "monogamous" relationships a year. I don't intend to be mean by this comment but they are really a pathetic community of misfits and victims looking for a place to belong. They don't need marriage, recognition, children, etc....; they need therapy.