You'd lose. Any decent therapist would make their assessment on a case by case basis.
Until you've seen what a young girl you love goes through in pursuing sexual assault charges, you don't know enough to make that statements you have. The case doesn't stay behind the courtroom doors, and the scrutiny can be unbearable for them. Bill Clinton didn't originate the "nut or slut" smear.
There are no easy answers in this, and if the Smarts feel it's not in the best interests of Elizabeth to pursue that aspect of the case, then I wholeheartedly respect their decision.
Oh I respect their decision, whatever it is. But I have seen this sort of thing before. What it is at the beginning is only a hint of what's yet to come. Not facing the charges will never mean it didn't happen even though everyone would like it to. But I'd never blame anyone for making the decision not to charge them. They are all the victims just trying to do the best they can. I just know sexual assault keeps haunting a person like little else. Either way, though, I wish them all well, especially Elizabeth.
And I think the spotlight will follow her regardless. This is not an "I can choose to stay out of public view" case. The perp has already been saying "I love Elizabeth..she's still my wife.." and sickening things like that.