Women are more likely to cheat than men, finds report.

divorce magazine.com ^ | 3/16/03 | ?

[Bush2000]

It's kinda hard to understand why anyone would cheat on spouse - at least to me. Whatever happened to the notions that one's word was their bond?

Bill Clinton's legacy in action...

[Wavyhill]

Does this mean that Progressive Insurance will show ads of a husband doing on-line voodoo on his cheating wife? Just wondering.

[EternalVigilance]

Life takes strange twists...

It sure does.

I mean, what are the chances that when you, wardaddy, are in the middle of a conversation like this, a poster would pop in with the screen name 'warchild9'?? ;-)

LMAO...

[Darksheare]

Likewise, my wife would be living under a death sentence as well if she did.

Hopefully, she'll read this and remember what "Forsaking all others" meant.

[MississippiMan]

How accurate is that?

Based on my personal observations over the past twenty-five years (my adulthood), which I do not claim is a representative sample, I'd say the actual percentages are probably higher. I'd guess that 60% of husbands have had affairs and probably 40% of wives. I think it grows more common all the time, and it wouldn't surprise me to learn that the growth is faster among women. Again, this is based on my observation. I'm not saying 40% of the women on FR are having affairs, so no one needs get upset.

'Tis a real shame.

MM

[Yeti]

I'm not making this up.

I have read and heard alot along the lines of what you are saying, and I believe you :-)

I have also had opportunity to hear things from people who analyze the data from studies like that and from medical trials. One of the oddest tidbits I have heard involved the effects of selection on paternity testing. Specifically, when the reason for dna analysis has nothing at all to do with paternity, the rate of discovered illegitimacy is much higher than when the data is gathered specifically to test paternity. The obvious inference being that such tests are somehow more often avoided when there is some doubt in mom's mind about paternity.

The person who related this to me also mentioned in particular a very broad study over several years on tissue compatibility tests for bone transplant. In more than 70% of children whose parents were married at the time of conception, the married guy was NOT the dad. This study was in southern california, and non-white hispanics were disproportionately represented, so maybe maybe that's not a slice of american family pie, but it is certainly food for thought.

Along the lines of the cheater's advantage ... I have read many times that sexual arousal and fertility were correlated, in that any given woman will get pregnant easier when she is more aroused.

So if cheating is what thrills her then the "other guy" will always have that advantage, since you can't cheat with your husband, only on him.

[martin_fierro]

I dare ya to tell her that to her (green) face.

I DUBBLE dare ya! <|:)~

[Yeti]

I was a residential telephone installer in the late 70's.

I hung wallpaper for most of the eighties, I know what you mean. It would amaze me sometimes, who would do what.

And you are right about being careful not to make them feel scorned.

[gorush]

"I mean, what are the chances that when you, wardaddy, are in the middle of a conversation like this, a poster would pop in with the screen name 'warchild9'?? ;-) LMAO... "

Hilarious...I sense this is a good time to state that I am glad that I was born a man, 'cause if I were a woman, I'd be a lesbian. :{)

[FF578]

Our nation has fallen so far from it's roots. At the Founding of our nation every single state had laws against fornication and adultery. Many made both Capital crimes.

We need to return to that standard. Fornication and Adultery should be capital crimes.

Today only 14 States, Puerto Rico and The United States Military have Sodomy laws. Only 26 States still have anti-adultery or Fornication laws on the books.

I am an LEO in a State with Sodomy, Adultery and Fornication laws, the penalitys are not nearly severe enough, but at least the law punishes the behavior and classifies as what it is, criminal deviant immoral behavior.

One of the better reforms would be to remove the no-fault divorce laws from the books, or work the establish the convenant marriage laws that several states have passed or are working to pass.

Deviant immoral libertarians and democrats have no right to destroy the moral fabric of society as a whole. Sodomy, fornication, and adultery do just that.

"Man, considered as a creature, must necessarily be subject to the laws of his Creator, for he is entirely a dependent being....And, consequently, as man depends absolutely upon his Maker for everything, it is necessary that he should in all points conform to his Maker's will...this will of his Maker is called the law of nature. These laws laid down by God are the eternal immutable laws of good and evil...This law of nature dictated by God himself, is of course superior in obligation to any other. It is binding over all the globe, in all countries, and at all times: no human laws are of any validity if contrary to this... Sir William Blackstone

[FITZ]

I wonder what the difference is between FR and DU cheat statistics

If you were married to someone from DU wouldn't you want to cheat too?

[jonno]

I have read many times that sexual arousal and fertility were correlated, in that any given woman will get pregnant easier when she is more aroused.

I think rather that it's basic biology. When a women is ovulating, her hormones have her "in the mood" (Duh!).

Should we be surprised then, that a woman of lower moral character is more likely to get pregnant from someone other than her regular lover (especially if the new lover is more masculine in appearance)?

Oddly enough, we guys suffer from a similar physiological phenomenon - but with a twist. After a few drinks, we also get "in the mood". However, the field of acceptable "partners" tends to expand, and more often than not - downward in appearance.

[RaceBannon]

because of all the women I have dated and fell in love with, not ONE broke up with me for infidelity, but I sure broke up with them for it!

[FITZ]

My personal observations match yours ---but I wonder if it's more often that married women will talk about their affairs than married men who might try to hide them. Some even brag because I think having men always after them makes them feel wanted or something, like they just reeled in another one.

[Johnny Crab]

YEP! Watch out for disgruntled wife in car/SUV with Alice Cooper's "Under My Wheels" cranked up!

[TruthWillWin]

Women are more likely to cheat on their men to gain sexual satisfaction because of their growing assertiveness and their equality in the workplace, say marriage counselors. Cheating husbands, in contrast, are increasingly looking for emotional fulfillment and may actually mean it when they tell their secretaries that their wives don't understand them.

Nonsense!

[wardaddy]

I'll tell you another strange moniker convergence is on that Asian virus thread where there is a "Mother Abigail" and a "Randall Flagg"....straight from the Stand.

FReeperdom is it's own universe isn't it?

I enjoy playing on man and woman threads...it's always fun....usually some nice pics too.

They will always be my favorite subject matter....

[realpatriot71]

We didn't have biology in elementary school and the biology I later took in high school and college said nothing about women being more likely to cheat during ovulation nor that biologically their cervix, uterus, or egg would also be more receptive to sperm than usual when cheating during ovulation.

It's the hormones - the same hormones that cause a woman go f-n loony during her 28 cycle, also ready the body for fertilization and implanation. One of the interesting side affects - women get horny.

[wardaddy]

Your post stands to reason.....one could also argue that middle aged couples striving to have a child and doing it all so textbook and clinical arguably lessen the woman's propensity to impregnation.

I had a college girlfriend (now an MD in Kali) who discovered she had a rather benign chronic disorder that came from some parental genetic transfer. They tested the parents during diagnosis stage and discovered viola! that neither had the gene...hence Mom was immediately on the hotseat and fessed up. It was a neighbor from the days when the dad was in the military. The folks stayed together. The girl...who was quite lovely...a Chi Omega at Ole Miss was distraught at age 20 to find she had this disease and that daddy wasn't daddy.

But...she dusted herself off and moved on and has made a good life I hear.