[GovernmentShrinker]

Doesn't the military provide (either directly, or through an insurance plan) grief counseling services for widows/widowers of servicepeople killed in the line of duty? It does sound as if she's going the wrong route. The 9-11 relief funds were intended for families of people killed on 9-11. Are these funds really supposed to provide assistance to the families of every serviceperson subsequently wounded or killed in overseas military operations that are directly or indirectly connected to the 9-11 attacks?

[the_devils_advocate_666]

Good point

...blatantly told her she wasn't a victim of 9-11.

But I'd have to say that, in some way, she is a "victim" of 9-11. How they determined that she was "blatantly" told she was not is, however, an unkown to me.