[hoosierskypilot]

That's garbage. His perversion is a choice. He also made a choice to defile his marriage vows.

It sickens me that people dismiss their culpability by intimating they are powerless against their choices.

It's the typical "me, me, me, my, my, my, I, I, I" mentality they've been brought up with by stupid parents who worship their kids as "godlets."

[Cicero]

They've set up "guidelines"?

If this is some sort of "open marriage" scenario, I sincerely hope she has considered the likelihood of getting AIDS from her scum of a husband.

[dpa5923]

As difficult as "coming out" can be for disclosing spouses, it can be just as painful for husbands and wives on the receiving end of the news, said Buxton and others. Often they are angry, confused, depressed and isolated, too embarrassed to tell friends and family members but with few other outlets for their feelings.

Duh! No kidding.

[Theresawithanh]

I have a friend who knew of a couple this happened to. Forget how long they were married, but he was "in the closet", until he got AIDS from one of his contacts, passing the disease on to his wife. Truly a terrible situation!

Don't know whether someone is "born gay" or not, although I strongly suspect it is a lifestyle choice which is made, often with dire and deadly consequences.

[BizzeeMom]

My mother "came out" 26 years ago, when I was 14. She is a radical feminist man-hater and very troubled human (sociopath and pathological liar....or is that redundant?). She sexually abused me and my sisters and no one suspected a thing. She destroyed my father and our family. My sisters never have recovered...I have but it took 20 years. I have no sympathy for these idiots whatsoever.

[weegee]

As many as 15 percent choose to remain married.

This is the biggest reason for the "shock and heartbreak".

Tell your spouse that "I've found another" or "I'm no longer attracted to you" and see how long the marriage lasts.

Tell your spouse about your adulterous affair.

The jilted spouses shouldn't need a support group. The other partner is the one who left the marriage; the nature of the breakup doesn't require "special" homosexual acceptance ("Okay, my husband was homosexual, I accept that our marriage must end so that he can live a happier life").

It's a selfish act and it blames the victim.

[madprof98]

The article makes several very questionable assumptions. The first is that gay/straight are absolute and exclusive categories, a concept that is very modern, very Western and very much different from most people's experience. The second is that people who feel a sexual attraction must act upon that attraction--vows to the contrary notwithstanding.

Living out these assumptions leads to disaster, particularly for the children of men and women (though usually men) who decide they have an itch they need to scratch. The article, naturally, makes them out to be heroes, but I expect few of them seem heroic to the children they reject so they can shack up with their boyfriends.