Posted on 11/24/2002 5:07:38 PM PST by Trust but Verify
The mere fact that this girl is telling the pushover mother that she wants to nastify her body is clue enough that she defines herself by what other's think.
Nam Vet
So if my percentage is right, a betting man would have to take the 80% bet that she is destined to be a skank.
The mother should tell her that the most successful relationships happen when the girl surprises her guy with her amazing talents in private (as opposed to advertising them with a calling card), and the guy thinks that he is the only one who has ever received them :-)
So far you have called me "mate", "chick" and "girly". Why?
I have sons. I have done nothing more than agree with what the mother herself has said. Heavens! I had no idea I was engaged in "uncomely persuasions"! I thought I was simply giving an opinion.
After all the name calling, perhaps you would like to explain your displeasure with my comments? Then perhaps we could have an actual discussion.
This is correct. Girls nowadays do this as a message to guys that they "give head". That is what the girl in question undoubtably has in mind, sorry to reveal.
In fact, since the escapades of The Rapist came to public attention, there has been a huge increase in te expectations of girls to perform oral sex as an act without meaning. It is yet another sign of the debasement of our culture foisted upon us by that wretched scoundrel.
From "head parties" where girls as young as 13 give guys head, to public figures such as Christina Aguilera, who's entire persona is now indistinguishable from that of a common whore, we are sadly experiencing the final act of cultural debauchery of our children's innocence which began in the 1960s.
I am amazed this parent's daughter is only requesting this at age 18. Where I live, I have seem girls in Junior High with such piercings, and dressed as little tarts, complete with "butt cleavage", push-up bras, and slutty makeup, all at age 14.
You should immediately contact the store's manager, as well as CVS' parent company to complain. Mobilize like-minded friend until this little SOB is fired. Until businesses refuse hire young people who insist on such a revolting appearance, we cannot make headway in reversing this insipid trend.
I have a friend who's a high school teacher in a distant town.
I visited and we went out for ice cream, and observed several scantily clad young things while we were there.
"Jeez look at that," I said. "You must be tempted, surrounded by that all day."
"Not really," he said. "Just talk to them for 15 minutes, you'll want nothing to do with them..."
If she's performing cunnilingus on guys, she's got more problems than a mere tongue piercing can ever hope to solve.
And to think I've poo-pooed all the "feminization of the American male" threads.
Speaking as a Dermatologist, if you have to be pierced do it where both ends are skin and there's nothing important in between. That way if you get a local infection treatment will likely be simple and effective. Unlike a local infection of the tongue which can swell enough to interfere talking, swallowing, eating, drinking and even breathing. Think what strep throat or tonsilitis can do to make you miserable without the assist of a gaping hole in your tongue. Piercing the lip or vulva probably has a similar risk for becoming infected, but at least they aren't likely to require a tracheostomy. Nasal piercing probably has an intermediate infection risk. Many people carry Staph. Aureus in their nose and that could quickly collapse the cartilage holding the nostril open if given access to it by a piercing. That is not easily fixed, but heck, you'd still be able to breath through the other nostril.
You also need to consider non-infectious local risks like bleeding. Bleeding is easily controlled with ear piercings, not so easily at a tongue. I refer anyone needing their tongue biopsied to oral surgeons. I'm scared of causing bleeding I can't control there. Lips seem like a place where pressure should control any bleeding, yet there is the lingual artery running its length and you can't predict just where it runs. Pierce it and hemostats and sutures will be needed to stop some impressive bleeding. You can probably get to the ER in time.
Nipple piercing is relatively safe, locally, for guys. For women it risks their future ability to breast feed. It also may interfere with a promising new early diagnostic test for breast cancer, breast ductal lavage.
This is not to say I endorse "old fashioned" ear piercing as an entirely safe practice. I see plenty of complications from that, especially keloid scars and the development of nickel allergies. However even cubic inch keloids on both ears, which aren't rare, are "small" relative to the problems from piercing non-skin sites.
The girl is 18. She will ultimately make her own decision. As a parent, it's important to guide her in the right direction but to not push her farther away by telling her she can't. If she is searching for her own identity, like many other 18 year olds, the more she is told it is forbidden, the more she will want to do it. In the grand scheme of things, a tongue piecring is not a big deal. It is a learning experience and ultimately makes her learn responsibility (whatever it is) for her own choices. It's called growing up.
And what other people think regarding tongue piercings and oral sex, blah blah blah... means absolutely nothing. Period. Making her worry about what others think of her will only make her more insecure. Let he make her own decision. Let her learn responsibility.
I could not give permission for this. I am 35 and mom of 2 little ones.
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