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Crystalk made a VERY good point. It seems that criticizing the instability of women in contemporary marriage is shouted down by a few of our members, without regard for the truth. The fact is that while we live much longer these days, it's not like a 50 year old man or woman hold the same appeal as they once did, so leaving to "find something better" still makes little sense.

Sure, you can be annoyed at the quirks or flaws of your mate, but why do people think the next person won't have their own(and sometimes the exact same flaws!)? The media truly has done a number on both men AND women. Men more easily feed their sexual desires, and women are fooled into being sluts in the foolish hope that they can snag a good man that way. It's a disgusting situation we face today, and I can't say that I haven't played a part in it, sadly.

One problem is that without someone to check our behavior, even men who want something meaningful will jump into bed quickly thinking(like women) that this is the way to build intimacy. Even a relationship that might have been great can hit the rocks because everything became focused around sex much too soon.

I don't think any of us are overlooking the fact that women desire sex or have greater freedom in pursuing happiness. I think what we are saying is that people are lacking in the character and strength to stick through the dull moments and the arguments. In fact putting in the effort to make it work, raising children, etc is what makes a relationship truly special. When it happens I know that looking at my wife feeding my child will make my heart melt and my love grow. THIS IS HOME, or at least that's what we should all be thinking.