[speekinout]

But I am determined to see to it that they never see the inside of a nursing home. They took care of me when I was dependent, and I will do the same for them if they need me to.

Have you checked with them? Nursing homes are not the dumps they used to be. And there are a lot of people who would rather be among contemporaries with activities and food suited to their ages than living with their children who are gone all day and changing their diapers at night.
Letting your parents spend your inheritance on the best nursing home or assisted living facility they can afford might be much more to their liking.

[Aedammair]

Listen, you stick your parents in a nursing home if you'd like, and wax on about how lovely it all will be for them. It doesn't matter to me; they're your parents. But rest assured that I'll be taking care of mine, God willing, and they will be loving every minute of the loving care I will give them. But I can see that you don't understand the value of that, and maybe that's because you had the parents you had and I had mine.