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the righteous (sic) are right. Courtship is better than dating.

Not if "courtship", so-called, has the real world effect (regardless of the theory) of keeping people single. "Forbidding to marry" is not a Christian doctrine, quite the reverse, and anti-dating attitudes and teachings often result in a de-facto prohibition of marriage. Don't tell me it ain't so, I've seen it with my own eyes, many times.

If you do not put Christ first, then you should not be seeking Christian girls to marry.

I am a Christian, and I do put Christ first (otherwise I'd have been unequally yoked long ago). And, I finally DID marry a Christian girl.

Many non-Christian people come to Christian singles groups looking for a nice person to marry without knowing the Christian principles of marriage....

True, but that's not who I'm talking about. I'm talking about long-time, baptized, involved church members who live like the devil in private.

True Christian women have radar for non-Christian men and stay away.

They must be reading their radar screens backwards. They systematically reject good men and pick bad ones almost as consistently as worldly women do. Only after they have been very badly burned by the bad boys, do they FINALLY wake up. The problem appears to be, that the emotional structure of women craves a bad boy, whereas their morals tell them to find a good man -- and the modern church, nobody ever gets around to teaching women NOT to live by their emotions. So they have to learn the hard way.

these non-Christians are the ones who make up the hypocrites.

Er, no. Like I said, the seemingly serious, committed Christians can be the worst.

"They must be reading their radar screens backwards. They systematically reject good men and pick bad ones almost as consistently as worldly women do. Only after they have been very badly burned by the bad boys, do they FINALLY wake up. The problem appears to be, that the emotional structure of women craves a bad boy, whereas their morals tell them to find a good man -- and the modern church, nobody ever gets around to teaching women NOT to live by their emotions."

I have seen girls in church at work. And, sometimes, the difference between a Christian girl and a secular girl, with all that it entails, is that one girl carries around a Bible on Sunday.

You both make some good points. Going out with someone who professes to be religious is in no way a guarantee of goodness. I had a neighbor who was a fundamentalist Christian (good looking guy) who suddenly took a liking to me. He never actually took me out on a date, but he would come over to my apartment and talk about it, provoke fights with me because I'm Catholic, and then try to get me to perform sexual favors for him. I guess he figured because I was already going to hell in his eyes it didn't matter if he gave me an extra push.

Still, I've met people of all types who were decent and who were not. Religion or lack thereof was no help.