Thank you for the interesting and thoughtful reply.
Please notice that none of that sort of thing appears in the article. There is no discussion whatsoever in the article concerning sex, or the lack of it, having anything to do with this. The entire article is about the harm that can come to Dan as a consequence of the way divorces are administered by the government in this country. Kathleen's behavior is not discussed at all, except in terms of how the divorce laws are administered and how this might affect her in different ways than it affects him. It is therefore an unfair criticism of the authors to suggest that they are attempting to shame women or to sanction their autonomy. The whole business about "giving it away for free" was introduced to the thread in Note 6 by one of the female participants, who also suggested that "what he's going to do now is just use women and throw them away." So here is an article about how this guy feels that he cannot get married because the risks of getting screwed over six ways from Sunday are just too high these days, and he thinks that is a shame. She reads this and instead of having any empathy whatsoever for what this guy feels, announces that what Kathleen needs to do is stop giving it away for free, and what he's about is using women and throwing them away. In other words, never mind him, it's all about her. It is probably true that things went downhill from there, but let me suggest that that is entirely due to the efforts of a certain segment of the population that has a quite bigoted view of men and -- as you have pointed out more explicitly than I chose to -- not the highest opinion of themselves. The issue concerning the divorce laws and the way they are affecting the society's ability to maintain family structures -- and for men to even have what we used to call a "life" -- is fundamentally about government and law. It is a topic of legitimate concern to conservative activists who care not only about overbearing government, but also about the bag of issues I'll call "slouching towards Gomorrah." As one who cares about these things, it greatly annoys me that we are cursed with a contingent of extraordinarily shallow people who cannot see past themselves and their own narrow interests, and who must therefore continually intervene in these threads to turn them into "gender wars" because that is how they see them. It's all about them. The article was not about them at all. It wasn't about sex. It was about law, and the need for reform. That the thread could be so twisted by them so as to stimulate the comments you made is a shame. Frankly, none of that should have ever come up. |