Unmarried vie for equal rights - It's a lonely battle for one couple

Boston Globe ^ | June 30, 2002 | Farah Stockman

[Cincinatus' Wife]

Miller and Solot met in an anthropology class at Brown University nearly 10 years ago. As bisexuals, both became activists for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender rights. They've been together since college and say they have a monogomous relationship.

He does the dishes and she does the laundry. She balances their shared checkbooks and he pays the rent. They have been completing each other's sentences for almost a decade. But don't mistake Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller for husband and wife.

[petuniasevan]

Aww, ain't they sweet?

Excuse me while I barf.

[madprof98]

But talk to people in the street across America, and for the most part, people favor family diversity and they are living it.

Anyone who thinks "family diversity" is good stuff should take a good hard look at life on the black side of the tracks. Here in the ghetto, most of the chaos of everyday life can be attributed to the virtual disappearance of two-parent family life. It is a rare child here who sees his father on a daily basis. It is also a rare child who can read at grade level - or stay out of trouble with the police - or form caring relationships with members of the opposite sex. Normal family life and overall personal and societal well-being go hand-in-hand, just as Daniel Patrick Moynihan warned many years ago.

[Lazamataz]

Not only do they count themselves among the 11 million unmarried partners in America, they are so committed to unmarriage that they have made it their life's work: They are founders of The Alternatives to Marriage Project, the sole national organization formed exclusively to fight for the rights of the unmarried.

Yeah, but you don't get Unmarried Gifts.....There is no Unbridal Shower.... no one goes to a We-Were-Not-Married-Reception.

[irish guard]

I have a question.....if they are trans gender types....then which one is the "he" and which one is the "she" of the family.

I am confused by all this!

[petuniasevan]

You got it. They want all the perks with NONE of the responsibilities. They are childish, selfish, self-absorbed, self-righteous twits.

[Cincinatus' Wife]

What? You don't think they would be lively, entertaining dinner guests?

[Lurker]

The only 'benefit' I derive from being married (other than getting to spend the rest of my life with an absolutely wonderful woman) is paying a higher tax rate than these two boobs.

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[Cincinatus' Wife]

. Normal family life and overall personal and societal well-being go hand-in-hand, just as Daniel Patrick Moynihan warned many years ago.

Dan Quayle tried to make that point too.

Potatoe-potato, Tomatoe, tomato, let's call the whole thing off.

[Cincinatus' Wife]

Next year, to celebrate their 10th anniversary, they are planning a big commitment ceremony. But they say they wouldn't dream of getting married.

Brown University must be proud.

[Cincinatus' Wife]

I am confused by all this!

They're a he and a she but they like shes and hes equally. I think.

[irish guard]

>>>>>>>>They're a he and a she but they like shes and hes equally. I think.<<<<<

Is that it, or does she like what he has so she tries to become a he and does he like what she has so he tries to become a she.....

I know I have the trans gender thing confused with this story, but it is interesting/wierd to hypothesize about all this.

All I know is that as a red blooded male, I could be accused of being a lesbian, since I really do like women!

[TightSqueeze]

They are childish, selfish, self-absorbed, self-righteous twits.

Apart from activities that are against the law, what gives you the right to judge them, last I looked, citizens who abide civil laws can in fact choose how to live their lives on their own, despite what you think do or say.

[Cincinatus' Wife]

...As bisexuals

Anyone can correct me if I'm wrong, but I think this means they swing both ways.

[Jhoffa_]

I don't care..

I just flat don't care.

Let them engage in a contract based relationship and shut up. I am sick to death of the queers whining about their abnormalities.

[uglybiker]

All I know is that as a red blooded male, I could be accused of being a lesbian, since I really do like women!

[Jhoffa_]

OH NO!

I think I'm a lesbian too..

[Henrietta]

The only 'benefit' I derive from being married (other than getting to spend the rest of my life with an absolutely wonderful woman) is paying a higher tax rate than these two boobs.

Right...which is why people shouldn't let the state tell them whether or not they are "married." My point: you only know for sure that people are married if you see the certificate filed with the state evidencing same. Other than that, you just have to take a couple's word for it, right?

[Amelia]

what gives you the right to judge them, last I looked, citizens who abide civil laws can in fact choose how to live their lives on their own, despite what you think do or say.

Maybe because they've put themselves right out in the public, saying that no matter what the rest of society says, they are right, plus they want to change the rest of society's laws & mores to fit their lifestyle, when they could get what they wanted in the proscribed way just by getting married.

You know, it's real simple: if they want all the rights and priviledges of being married, they should get married. If they don't want to get married, they should shut up.