I am currently in the doghouse for not allowing my daughter to go to a baby shower for an un-wed mother. Not only do I think such a shower to be in bad taste, but to participate would be infering approval. Granted, the baby will need things, but this is no reason to have a party.
Whatever happened to the days when there was a such thing as shame? Perhaps we have gone past the time when persons who have "made a mistake" would hang their head, but MUST we celebrate it?
THAT is EXACTLY right. Our church went through the same thing about 3 years ago. One unmarried gal, 17 at the time, got knocked up by some guy, not at our church. In PC style, and with a non-judgemental, forgiving heart, most people rallied around this kid, having parties, paying attention, glorifing her decision to 'make the tough choice of keeping' the kid rather than adoption. Later that year, boom, boom, boom, must have been 4 other young, unmarried gals turn up pregnant wondering when their party starts.
To use the phase-of-the-day, we finally 'connected the dots' and stopped celebrating these events and started rewarding and paying attention to the kids who are REALLY making the tough choice of not having sex (as far as we know anyway).
There will always be a few, but we have learned to be VERY careful about what behaviors are rewarded.