Shade2 should check out how Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart dressed back in the day. Talk about effeminate! In fact almost all the classical greats had long hair and wore frilly clothes. They'd fit right into a heavy metal band.
Not that I'm putting down classical music. Just pointing out how silly all of this "controversy" is. It doesn't matter how you dress. Hey, the Village People dressed like manly construction workers and they were all homos! So what does that tell you?
Most of the bands who dressed like that were glam, not metal, although there were some good glam rock bands.