Posted on 05/28/2002 7:17:49 PM PDT by The Giant Apricots
And all of that should be defined by YOU?
The fact is, there should be gender-neutral standards...and then if certain areas of life wind up with more women or with more men, due to the decisions of those individual women and men, so be it. No social engineering from the right or the left needed. But both the right and the left do deny reality when they look down upon a stay-at-home dad doing a perfectly good job, calling him a "Mr. Mom", or when they look down upon a female construction worker who is doing a perfectly good job, calling her "butch" or "a dyke" just because of her occupation. Many psuedointellectual conservatives are obsessed with "traditional" roles. Let people do what they are good at. No affirmative action, but no affirmative presumptions of gender-based lesser ability in any given area of life either!
The fact that men and women are different doesn't imply that anyone gets to become the gender difference dictator. What lead you to such a bizarre supposition?
Get off your high horse.
Regards.
What a weird and oversimplified stereotype to comment on. My wife picks up spiders and puts them outside so they'll take care of the pesky flying insects. My grandmother used to gross me out by killing huge bugs by swatting them with her open hand then picking them up to put them in the trash.
OTOH, there was a single lady who moved in up the trail from us who called 911 to get a spider out of her bathroom. They killed the spider after they were done treating her for hyperventalation. She wasn't "professing" anything, she was terrified. She moved out a few months later.... the country wasn't her cup of tea.
Perhaps I was too frivilous in my responce but I tend to giggle when the war between the sexes comes up as a topic.
Women have always held power, just as have men.Historically rigid roles did not weigh so heavily on the elite of any past society, they had leisure to discover personal preferences and the means to indulge them. The vast majority of the rest of humanity were locked in a day to day struggle for survival.
Once mankind discovered technology and mass produced it, traditional male/female roles became an "object of scorn" or the "only right way" to people of both sexes who were confused by their new freedoms and choices. Several generations of western civilization were/are so confused they seem to seek excuses to explain their lack of confidence in the personal choices they have made regarding their "role" as a man or woman.
.As a woman, I see this most clearly in the "Mommy wars " .Women feel either guilt or superiority,based on envy or scorn, of another womans freely chosen lifestyle.It is sometimes hard for us humans to just try to do the best we can,without a defined set of expectations to measure our success.
I see some hope in the next generation that both men and women will feel comfortable in their own skins, whether they choose a more traditional role or a variation.
Throughout this post I am speaking of heterosexual,relatively normal men and women.
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