Well, whatever it is you 'hate to say', - it is not getting said clearly. - How bout you try again?
To the extent that the Fourteenth Amendment interferes with the operation of the Ninth and Tenth Amendments, it has the effect of repealing those Amendments, or at least of nullifying their operation which would otherwise prevent enforcement of Fourteen.
Despite the fact that many here on FR favor States as smaller and more malleable sources of government authority, the view of State-Federal relations contemplated by the Fourteenth Amendment is intensely popular where it counts-in State Legislatures.