No biggie. Right now I just can't read many catholic books. I took up Thomas a Kempis with gusto and by about the second chapter he made some comment like "avoid women". I took it the wrong way, closed the book and never wanted to go back to it. That was several years ago.
I'm not familiar with de Sales. I did get into Alphonse Ligouri a bit and they all turned me off to some extent. So I took a long break.
I do appreciate your trying to be helpful and perhaps someday I'll recover my equanamity and be able to resume my spiritual journey.
Part of me needs and wants to be a "team" player, but we are all unique individuals and I lost part of myself trying so hard to conform.