To: ikka
Also, you did not mention if your sister is married, but, I have noticed that the nature of marriage seems to have changed in the last generation. In my parents' generation, there was a desire to (1) get married; and (2) together build a future. But, when I grew up, the message I often heard, though not from my parents, was: (1) you first need to earn as much money as you can, because you never know if you will get divorced; and, I suspect: (2) men who also got that message then seemed more reluctant to risk a fortune in marriage, even with pre-nups.
Consequently, marriage for many people now seems to be something that happens AFTER the individuals are assured of their own, singular financial security -- instead of being a journey two people take, together, seeking it.
15 posted on
04/14/2002 11:44:41 AM PDT by
summer
To: summer
Consequently, marriage for many people now seems to be something that happens AFTER the individuals are assured of their own, singular financial security -- instead of being a journey two people take, together, seeking it. How true! And it's an attitude I have found myself unconcsciously adhering to. More out of worry, though, that I would not have enough evidence of financial stability to be considered a good provider.
20 posted on
04/14/2002 1:00:26 PM PDT by
Loyalist
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