I think women should use utmost discretion in whom they sleep with and when they do it should be for love. I understand your well known preference for love as well as material security and i would not fault that exactly but I would caution that the former is paramount much more so than the latter.
The essential complete breakdown of sexual responsibility in the black community outside the black middle and upper middle class is in my opinion devastating....incredibly so in fact. Nearly 8 of 10 black children have no daddies. Both the mommies and even more so perhaps the daddies are to blame...it has become self perpetuating and is now in it's 4 generation in some cases. I would almost wager that black legitimacy was actually higher during Reconstruction than now...just a thought. When racism was quite real and serious to one's health I might add.
Blacks are only a glaring example but all one need do is look at the history of the world and see what happens when sexual mores reach rock bottom. When middle class college girls are aping Jerry Springer shows...it's not a good sign.
I don't think it is who you sleep with but why that matters dear.
That is LBJ's legacy 80% of black kids with no daddies.