That is true. However if you believe that giving your wife time to herself only every Thursday from 6-9 PM is not controlling maybe you ought to rethink. How about requiring her to have natural childbirth five times in order to humble herself...or not only requiring her to homeschool all of the children but moving the family out to a bus so that they live a 'simpler life'. In the meantime, your wife starts getting clumps in her hair and she starts smelling...but you still go to the gym and bike a few times a week.
Andrea Yates is guilty of murder, no matter what her husband did, but I do think he should be held accountable for neglect.
I have no problem with that if that's the case. But all this talk about "poor Andrea....he was nothing but a controlling pig" is getting a little thick. This isn't the 1800's or even the 1950's for that matter. If she was unable to get out of an unreasonable situation due to mental problems she had family, friends and plenty of support groups available to help. Did he refuse her medication? Stop her in anyway from receiving help from any source? I don't know all the facts in the case, I didn't hear all the evidence, perhaps you can offer proof that he is the monster you claim him to be.