I am very happy for you but in the past few years’ things have been changing. Maybe not for you but for the rest of us. We were not "forbidden" to place a black child with a white family but we were "strongly encouraged" not to do so. The sad part was that many prospective parents just wanted a child and did not care if it was black, white, yellow or purple with green dots. Yes there are the “others” but they are not a majority. At least four of these couples ended up adopting in the Marshall Islands. A place not known for it's lily-white inhabitants.
The problem that I see is with the courts. If the birth mother or some other relative should contest the adoption by saying that she was pressured or that they just found out about the child and the child has been placed with parents of another race then it is that much easier to have the adoption set aside.
The argument is made that the parents are not raising the child in a culturally sensitive environment. It doesn’t happen all the time or even half the time but it does happen. In the one case where I was directly involved the child was Asian and the a-parents were a mixed race couple. If I repeated what the relatives of the adopted child said about that I would be banned.
A. Cricket
I agree with you that there are some stupid courts nationally. And there are families who will adopt transracially who are sometimes prevented. We have been involved in the adoption community for a long time. If I had a nickle for every couple I met who would not consider transracial adoption or who decided to adopt overseas instead at twice to four times the cost, I would retire.
We were not "forbidden" to place a black child with a white family but we were "strongly encouraged" not to do so. The sad part was that many prospective parents just wanted a child and did not care if it was black, white, yellow or purple with green dots. Yes, but if such parents were conservative they might pass their conservatism onto their kid. And it just wouldn't be right to have a black kid who went through the supposed obstacles which supposedly blocked his way without properly complaining about how he couldn't accomplish anything because of all the roadblocks put up by the evil white man.