[Cold Heat]

''The tears are a funny thing. Because it's not usually the victims who cry; it's the aggressors, the girls who have something to apologize for. And sometimes, yes, it's relief on their part, but it's also somewhat manipulative,

We used to call these crocodile tears. They are easy to spot.

Why isn't this woman teaching teachers. I believe that would be more effective.

[VietVet]

No, I think this Wiseman woman needs to grow up. Read the descriptions of her, and the quotes from her. She is still thinking, acting, speaking, even to a certain extent dressing like these middle and high-school girls herself. I mean, my Lord! A 30 year old woman who lets her 17-year-old sister pick out her clothes?

The most intelligent thing the author of this article says in it, is that by paying attention to such spoiled behavior in this way, teachers and parents are actually reinforcing it. These aren't "Alpha-girls." They are spoiled brats. A little parential (and school) discipline, and a little less indulgence, would work wonders.

As for the non-A list others in the schools, I would be surprized if most of them even noticed these little soi-disant Queen Bee's, save to hold them in mild contempt. They are too busy with their own cliques and circles, and the best of them, the ones who will end up being the happiest and most successful, are learning to stand on their own two feet, without reference to who's in or who's out.