If we fail to pay child support the custodial parent has a government agency to get the money for the parent with no out of pocket expenses.
Um...then how about just paying the child support. Problem solved.
If we fail to return the children to the custodial parent at the end of the visitation I can be charged with Kidnapping, which is a felony.
Um...how about returning the children after the agreed upon visitation. Again, no problem.
However:
If the custodial parent ignores the court order and refuses to allow visitation as ordered, we are forced to retain an attorney to have the case tried, which takes time and money. The police department will not enforce the court order. The courts require a petition filed (which can take months and be very expensive). Social services will not help either.
You lost custody for a reason, unless you had a totally inept lawyer. If you did, simply go back and get your kids back.
My ex, "deadbeat mom of the millenium" complains as much as you. However, never fought for a second to keep the kids.
Sorry...I have no sympathy.