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Dear Mrs. Chief Negotiator,

someone who you love never really dies.... the person will always live on in your heart. And there will be a time when the two of you are reunited. When I lost my brother I was more than heartbroken for several years, but by now I think of him as having taken an earlier flight to our common destination. May God bless you, and your husband.

"more than heartbroken for several years" - but that time did pass. Thanks for your kind words of encouragement.

When my mother died, I thought the ache would never go away. She had cancer and that ache was with me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week while she was sick. Even though I experienced the love and definite help of the Holy Spirit who did come alongside to carry me through - I will never forget that pain. And it is a pain. But, again, it was my mom - and I still had my husband and other family members. I did recover and now look back at her time of illness and can easily see God's hand at work through the darkness of that time. I can clearly see His plan at work too - though then I did not agree with it at all. And, still, some 20 plus years later, I miss her - every day. But the pain is gone. It really is gone. Praise God!

"someone who you love never really dies.... the person will always live on in your heart."

Yes, they always live in your heart. Having lost both my parents and my brother, all at young ages, I can relate to this. They are always in my heart. Think of the good times and smile, and it's OK to be sad and cry. Gain strength and comfort from your loved ones and from God. Know that your loved one is in a wonderful place and you will be reunited one day. Time helps to lessen the pain. Take care and God Bless

Mrs. Chief:
June 2001 my husband died of an aortic aneurysm--for about 6 months I was unable to think clearly and ended up with a case of shingles of the forehead and over my right eye. I still have the shingles but it is getting easier. All of a sudden everything in this house needed done---sprinkler system--new sod---new car---new ceiling on the lanai---new pool heater etc. So all of the things he did now are my responsibility. I miss him so much, not only that he took care of the problems, but I miss the good times we had together. This year for his birthday I had a pool party of my women friends, fixed my husbands favorite meal, drank a toast to him and told 'Fred stories'. He would have had a ball. So these special days are hard but I refuse to make them harder. Honey, you will make it, just believe that. And as one of the other posters said, just remember that you will be together again at another time. If it is a child you lost, please e-mail me at aol as I lost my daughter, my only child and my 3 grandchildren due to a drunk driver at Christmas time in 1988. That loss was more than devastating.